So for 2 years now, it has been impossible to get Eliott to wear a costume or go up to a house and trick or treat on his own...
This year, Eliott stayed positive and actually had fun with a holiday! He was excited to wear his costume (and wore it to 2 separate events). On halloween, we went to a family-oriented party and trick or treated with friends. Eliott went off with his friends and we didn't see him the rest of the night! Alan and Dov had to chase after him with the wagon.
This made it easy for me to spend some time with Shia. Every always worries about the middle child! Shia LOVED halloween. We held hands and slowly walked from house to house, pointing out pumpkins and say Boo for every ghost or Bet for every bat we saw. At each house he said "treat" and "thank you and ba-bye".
Battling the need to eat the candy was easy too (with a little help from Yo Gabba Gabba's "Too much candy's gonna make you sick, too much candy's going to make you so sick"). We have been able limit Eliott's in-take to one per day (when he remembers).